By: Angela Joy
Today I was working with a client of mine who is 90-years-old.
He is a fantastic man who is able to do many exercises that people half of his age cannot do.
Each time we work together he amazes me.
He said something today that struck me.
While he was walking on the treadmill he shared a story from his past. He expressed how happy he was to be married to his wife and how lucky he was to have her by his side. This was not something new that he had shared. We have worked together for about a year now. He happens to have dementia and does not always remember the things that he has told me.
Nevertheless, as he expressed his appreciation for his beloved wife he began to reflect on one of his memories. “Right after we were married and she and I went on a trip. We went a trip around the world,” he said with a smile.
He had told me this story several times before. Today, however, I realized something. This story must have been a significant experience in life. Each time we talk about his past he tends to bring it up. This one seemingly unimportant event to some must be one of his favorite memories from his life.
Amidst everything else over the course of his entire 90 years of life he recalls this trip.
I thought to myself as he continued on with his story, “What will I talk about when I am 90? What memories from my life will be carried with me throughout the course of my life? What will be so significant to me that if I happen to lose my memory I will be able to look back and smile?”
For me personally, I am not sure. Maybe I will remember my study abroad trip to Europe during college. Or maybe a favorite race that I ran. Or maybe, and most likely, my memory will be one that I have yet experienced, which I hope!
One thing that I do know for sure was that my memory most likely will not be from the jobs that I have worked, the degrees that I achieved, or the awards that I received.
These accomplishments are all wonderful. However, they do not stand a chance to a trip around the world with your newly married spouse, or the birth of your first child, what it feels like to fall is love, the love that you receive from your parents, or the relationship that you have with a grandparents.
It can be so easy to get caught up in life – our goals, our jobs, our studies –we tend to lose focus on the things that are truly important in our lives. We forget the value of the moments that we hold in our memory and never forget. The refreshing smiles, the warm hugs, the contagious laughter – these are the moments we want to remember. These are the moment we want to value, appreciate and take notice of. These are the moments in our lives that we will want to reflect on when we reach 70, 80 and 90-years-old.
Therefore, I urge you to stop, take a moment, and appreciate these moments. Don’t wait until you grow old to appreciate and value all that you have today. The degrees, grades, awards, and belongings, they likely will hold little value to love that you shared, the friendships that you made, and experiences that you created.
Take a few moment and ask yourself;
What will you remember from your life when you are 90-years-old??